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JD on 2010-03-13 11:23:24 (Report this Post) |
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Tired of the fighting |
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After 4 years and several accusations from child molesting to agressive behaviour and 3 court cases further i was given access to see my child by the high court.
Last year i only saw my daughter for 30 minutes. She will be 4 years old soon and i have no bnd with her.
My ex (we were not married) moved without informing me 500km away last year which make it impossible to see my child regulary as per high court order.
Also she doesn't anser my phone calls etc..
The court order also states that a welfare officer must be present in the beginnig until my daughter knows me and to help with the implimentation stage and then normal "verwyderings regte" can take place.
But they are of no help. The court appointed welfare officer one just said it is out of her jurisdiction now and refuses to help any further.
I currently work out of country and is only in South Africa a couple of days every few weeks.
What do i do now? I don't have money for lawyers anymore as the past few years i spended about R100,000.00 to prove my inocence and for access to my daughter.
I pay maintanace and give medical aid every month. I also want to go for paternity tests now? Can i after 4 years of paying maintance. what is the route to follow?
My ex must also pay the high court cases according to the court order but she refuses.
I am tired of fighting and is in a good relationship currenlty but this whole thing with my ex is putting a lot of strain on my current relationship.
Can i stop paying maintance untill paternaty test has been done.
I went to a magistrate court with the high court orders to ask what must i do and they suggest i get a lawyer.
What can i do becuase i don't have money for lawyers anymore.
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LSM on 2010-03-30 10:08:40 (Report this Post) |
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RE: Tired of the fighting |
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Hi JD.
I feel you pain, my case is a bit different as currently I have my 6 year old daughter living with me which she has been for the past 2 years as my wife walked out of our marriage and left me with all the expenses, the bond ect.
She has made a new life for herself with the man that she had an affair with and know wants to have custody of our daughter. I too cannot afford the legal fees to go to high court and get primary residence of my daughter by court order even though the Family advocate has already laid that down in there recommendation.
She can afford to send me legal letter after legal letter as she just walked away from everything even though the property is in joint names and she is responsible for 50% of the debt. Our daughter hates going to her mother on weekend and it absolutely devastates me to have to make her go but I cannot deny the mother access to her.
I would do anything for my daughter and my biggest fear is losing her to her mother whom I am sure is really only interested in gaining primary residence for maintenance. She has absolutely no bond with her mother at all and doubt that she ever will. But like you I am physically, financially and emotionally finished and the only thing that keeps me going is my daughter so I will fight to the bitter end to keep her or get her back if I lose her.
I find it however so amazing that because I am a male and the innocent party in the situation I am the one that is constantly made to feel like guilty party.
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